A really good ref in a recent game was keeping the game flowing really well, calming Stefan down, telling him to cool it as there were just 4 minutes left of the match. A silly card happy ref like Jack Packman keeps breaking up the game with cards, so would have booked him.
As an aside about officials, the Ebbsfleet manager struck me as quite calm until I read his exchange with Havant's manager, but Kuttrieb was saying in a recent interview that he had started challenging referees decisions so he could balance decisions his way. So although I can't stand our manager's moaning at refs, maybe it is more a necessary part of the game than is immediately obvious.